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What’s the Deal with Grandparent Baby Showers?

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Are you familiar with the Grandma Shower trend?  It seems that Grandma’s friends have found yet another reason to hold a party.

The Grandma Shower Trend

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Do Grandmas deserve their own celebration?

Who throws a baby shower? 

Normally it’s thrown by friends (or aunts or cousins) and it’s thrown FOR the expectant mother.

Are you familiar with the Grandma Shower trend? 

It seems that Grandma’s friends have found yet another reason to hold a party.

Hosting a shower for the grandma-to-be has become an acceptable practice. 

What a great way to help celebrate the transition to grandparenthood.

But this Grandmother Shower trend is certainly not without controversy.

Grandmother Showers are usually given for the first-time Grandma. 

This should be more of a celebration of a new role and status than just a gift grab, don’t you think?

Opinions about the Grandma Shower trend.

On one side, it would be very possible the expectant mother could feel left out, insulted, and angry about her mother or mother-in-law getting this kind of attention. 

After all, it’s the mother that carries the pregnancy, births the child, and faces the day-to-day challenge of parenting.

On the other side, Grandmas are usually very excited and happy at the prospect of having their first Grandchild. 

They would like to celebrate this wonderful stage of life and share the joy with their friends.

Grandma Shower Trend

In her article on the Huffington Post website, Caroline Bologna shares some opinions from readers about the Grandma Shower trend.

Her readers expressed varying opinions about the practice.

The writer at Etiquette Hell expresses an extremely negative take on the subject of Grandma Shower trends.

Even the etiquette experts like Miss Manners have weighed in on the issue.  In this response to a reader question, Miss Manners says: “Baby showers are intended to be for friends who are actually having babies.

A co-worker producing her daughter or granddaughter to collect goods from strangers is indeed a bald grab, devoid of friendship.”

No matter how they feel about it, etiquette experts agree:  If you decide to host a grandmother shower and be the one who throws a baby shower for the new Grandma, tread carefully.

Embracing the Grandma Shower Trend.

If you are going to embrace the Grandma Shower trend, here are some do’s and don’ts when it comes to Grandmother Showers.

  • DON’T outshine the mother-to-be. Don’t steal her thunder or shift the spotlight off of mom.
  • DO keep the celebration small and between Grandma’s circle of friends.  A big blow-out celebration would be inappropriate, hurtful and in bad taste.
  • DON’T expect or give lavish gifts.  Don’t expect or give expensive, outrageously expensive, or over-the-top gifts.  And definitely no registry.  Don’t see this as a time to go all out for Grandma, no matter how much you would like to.
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  • DON’T forget the new mom.  The easiest way to never see your Grandchild is to offend, hurt or ignore their mother.
  • DO let her know about the shower.  Maybe you don’t even call it a shower.  Call it a Grandma celebration.  Give her a call, explain what you’re wanting to do, and ask for her blessing.
  • DON’T forget to have fun!
  • DO play a few shower games, pass on your grandparenting wisdom, and celebrate with the new Grandma.
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The Grandma Shower Trend Controversy

The controversy is real.  Take time to consider the feelings of others, the unique situation of the Grandmother, and how you will approach the event. 

If you decide to be the one who throws a baby shower for a new Grandma, you’ll find this guide super helpful.

The arrival of a Grandchild is time to contemplate this new phase of life, the new role as a grandma, and an opportunity to celebrate and share your joy.

As a Grandmother myself, I think it is a great idea if it is planned and carried out with consideration and thoughtfulness.

What do you think?

Would you appreciate it if your friends held a Grandmother Shower in your honor?  Would you participate in the Grandma Shower trend and host one for someone else?  Let me know your reaction in the comments.

As always, Keep Passing Down the Love,

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Tuesday 8th of March 2022

This is narcissistic as HELL! I mean it’s totally one thing if Grandma in question were a really wonderful woman, happened to have lifelong friends…. like the yaya’s, and they show up with big bottles of booze a crazy amazing food to celebrate (or jest) at their friend becoming a grandmother! That’s totally awesome! Who wouldn't want friendships like that?! But a freaking "Grandma Shower" with family members?! How in the hell is it appropriate to give a woman a “grandma” necklace from a child that isn’t yours? I'd be offended if one of my sisters, cousins, aunts ir whatever gave a hypothetically good mother a gift in honor of **my** babies! It supersedes the goodwill of the actual parents and children. A picture frame is one thing, but it may be also a bit presumptuous of the kind of relationship the woman has with her daughter or daughter-in-law, and the level of inclusion they would want with her. How do these parties go, do you give her gift baskets of stress relieving bath salts, because everyone knows those first few weeks are so tiring and every little minute Mom– oh I’m sorry, grandma-- gets to herself is precious?! LMAO

I think close friends celebrating a dear woman becoming a Grandma is totally appropriate, and even more special if it's coming from the daughter themselves, but a shower has all kinds of gross feeling connotations.

I can imagine my Rockstar of a mother-in-law enjoying-- and absolutely deserving-- a celebration for becoming a grandma, but she might also think it's slightly unnecessary. It’s my narcissistic a****** of a "mother" that would gloat and bask in the spotlight of a shower– for a baby she will never meet.


Thursday 9th of July 2020

We have Grandmother showers as well as Mother of the Bride/Mother-I -law showers at work. We would make silly gag gifts so there was no showering the person with lavish gifts just a fun lunch hour.

Sue ODell

Friday 13th of September 2019

Kimberly, My friends recently threw me a surprise grandma baby shower. It was at a restaurant during dinner so there were no games, but each friend told a story of a special memory/tradition of their grandma, which was fun to hear. I opened gifts, and was excited to see many books, burp, cloths, bibs, spoons, socks, ect. . We finished dinner and conversation and had a lovely evening. I think a grandma shower is a lovely idea but should be kept to an intimate group of friends and the gifts suitable for grandma to keep at her house for the baby.

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