Tips from Gram: Things I Want My Grandkids to Know
So, I’ve been sitting here thinking about our little people and what I’d like to tell them. There are a few things I want my Grandkids to know.
Maybe you, too, have thought about the important nuggets of truth, experiences and lessons, wisdom and encouragement that you could share with your Grands.
But first, there’s this…
It starts here:
The Little Grands are spending the night with Grandma. You’re standing in the doorway watching them sleep. Little Miss takes a deep breath and exhales softly. Tears come as you remember your own children, so sweet, sleeping soundly, without a care in the world. Seeing them like this reminds you of those days long ago, when you were the Mom, not the Grandma.
No matter how difficult your own children were on a particular day, or how much they had annoyed you, you would stand there and watch them sleep. And couldn’t believe how lucky you were to be their Mom. At that moment, their vulnerability was evident and there again you could see the halo floating above their heads. Isn’t that the best? Watching them sleep? Then you fall in love with them all over again.
And you think:
Now instead of it being your children, it’s your GRANDchildren. How incredibly awesome it is to have the opportunity to know your grandchildren. How did you get so lucky to have the best grandkids? Little Miss & Mr. are funny munchkins. They say hilarious things. Their giggles are contagious.
Your heart melts when they look at you with those sparkling eyes and grin. Then they squeeze you around the neck. They call me Gramma and you feel their unconditional love. And suddenly you’re wrapped around their little fingers. You want to hold them, protect them, and never let them grow up – which we all know is impossible.
But Life is a Roller Coaster
These littles are so innocent, sweet, and unaware of how harsh life can be. They are also unaware of the truly magnificent things that are possible. Life can be cruel and unforgiving. It can be rewarding and amazing. There will be times of disappointment and heartache. There will be times of great joy!
No doubt they will face difficult situations during their lifetimes, and times of abundance and promise. The least we can do for them is help prepare them for the day when we are no longer able to help them, defend them, or shield them from the outside forces. And prepare them to appreciate and treasure the times of plenty.
We can help.
It’s up to us to provide the tools and strength they will require when the unexpected, inevitable, challenging moments come their way.
It’s up to us to teach them gratitude and appreciation for the good things in their lives.
The stability, courage, and confidence that comes from having a strong family connection will be their protection. The encouragement, acknowledgment of their accomplishments, and support for their endeavors will sustain them as they grow and find their own way. Knowing that they are never alone, always have someone on their side, and love of their family can increase the probability of a successful, productive, happy future.
Here are some things I want my Grandkids to know:
- Know that you are loved unconditionally. Always. For as long as I live, you will be in my heart.
- Always show kindness and empathy. People will be drawn to you when you are understanding, caring and compassionate. Treat others as you would want to be treated.
- Give others a hand up. You get what you give, so be helpful and encouraging to others.
- Go all in when you have a task to complete or a goal to achieve. Give 100% to any undertaking. Be happy for successes and know you are capable. Remember: finding the 12 ways it didn’t work leads to the 13th way that it will.
- Have pride in your accomplishments. The prize is always sweeter when you’ve worked hard and scrambled to get there.
- Admit when you make a mistake. We are all human. Start again and do it right next time.
- When things go wrong, and they probably will at some point, be strong. Be courageous. Pick yourself up, dust off, and push ahead. There will be highs and lows during your life. With the love and support of your awesome family and the perseverance and strength you have inside, you will be able to handle whatever comes your way.
- Learn, learn, learn. It never ends. You will never know it all, even if you think you already do. There’s that “one more thing” that could tip the scales in your favor. Don’t miss out.
- Listen to advice from others, even if you don’t agree with them. Consider their opinions, but make your own decisions.
- Choose your own way. You are in control of your own life. You are the one to live with your choices.
- Make the world a better place. Go green, fight for what’s right, support a cause. Do what you can to leave your mark – – let them know you were here!
- Spend time with your family. The love and support you have from them can’t be measured.
- Learn about your connections, traditions, and history.
- Find a way to worship and love your God. Have faith in Him through all things.
My final words:
Of course, this is only a partial list of the things I want my Grandkids to know. Each family is unique, so add your own words of wisdom, advice, and love into this list. Share with your littles.
Having Grandchildren is like having a second chance to get it right. You want to enjoy your time with them and want them to enjoy their time with you. Pass on your wisdom to them, but also learn from them. Encourage them and support them.
Most of all, let them know just how much you love them. Today, tomorrow and always.
Pass Down the Love.
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